complaining caregivers

Complaining Caregivers

It seems to me that many caregivers of the elderly spend a lot of time complaining.  I read forums about caregiving, and complaints are the main topic.  Caregivers complain about how they are not appreciated by the loved ones, how their siblings or spouse do not help them, how they just can’t wait until they can get a life they imagine they could have. These complaining caregivers imagine they could have a better life, be more independent, have more money to spend, have more time, and do what they want if only they could be free of caregiving.  If only……

Competing Complaints

The comments of caregivers on some website forums boil over with resentment, depression, and suppressed anger. The people who are posting are not seeking solutions. They seem to say, “You think you got a complaint?  Listen to mine. It will top yours!”  Maybe some are seeking revenge for childhood or teenage injustices, mistreatment, or minor slight from the patient long ago.

I think its depressing to read such words. Even more depressing to realize that there are hurting people behind those words. Those that are hurting are the complaining caregivers, of course, but also their patients or loved ones .  If you are such a patient, how can you not know that the caregiver you live with resents caregiving for you, and wishes you were gone.  If you are one of the complaining caregivers, you know that you are not the best you could be.

For further reading, check out Choosing Caregiving

Challenge to Change

I want to challenge those complaining caregivers: Get off the forum. Just stop using that forum and visiting that website.  Stop feeding on the anger, resentment, depression and self-pity that you find on those websites.   Stop posting there and stop reading the other postings. Get away from complainers who only drag you down.

Get positive. That’s the advice I am giving caregivers: BE POSITIVE.  Stop feeding yourself negatives.  Start finding the positives in life.  You will increase your appreciation of your blessings. You will improve your attitude and your mental health.

Find some positive thought websites where you benefit from some encouragement, some inspiration, and take some positive action that makes a difference.  Here are some suggestions for complaining caregivers. Websites that can provide some attitude improvement.

Try These Positive Thought Websites


  • Guideposts has a whole section about caregiving with positive articles from caregivers.  Reading these you will be able to relate to caregivers who are making the best of their situations with some spiritual help.

Positively Positive

  • Your Attitude + Your Choices = Your Life

  • Inspiration served with a heavy dose of reality

Kind Spring

  • Small Acts That Change the World.  Read their Stories of Kindness from Around the World and look at their Kindness Ideas by Category. Be inspired to be kind.

Daily Good

  • News That Inspires  Internet news that is ad-free and full of good news from around the world.

Good News Network  

    • The Good News Network is an American online newspaper which publishes positive and uplifting news stories.

Christopher News Notes

  • Get some inspiration by mail by signing up for the Christopher News Notes. The Christophers’ motto is “It’s better to light one candle than to curse the darkness.”

So, here is your candle, complaining caregivers.  Go light up your world for good.  Be positive.



1 thought on “Complaining Caregivers

  1. Yes, I agree. There’s too many caregivers feeling sorry for themselves and not putting themselves in their patients shoes or loved ones shoes.the seniors need us they are very grateful although sometimes they cannot express it well because of their illnesses. They are dependent upon the caregiver so do try to live a positive life and stop complaining especially in their loved ones presence. I am a caregiver and it hurts me to see some caregivers and support workers poor attitudes and they think it’s justified, it Isn’t. I think it just makes no sense in caring for someone if they are that unhappy with themselves. If your a caregiver or a support worker and your constantly complaining about what you do then STOP and find another career choice and get someone trustworthy and positive for your loved ones or patient. Just please think about their needs and stop complaining and get some support for yourself as well to change your attitude. Do something about it and stop complaining, I hear this and I tell my fellow co workers, they are in the wrong field or time to take a break.

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