Choosing Caregiving in Today’s World
The phone rang just about the time I was going to bed. Who would be calling at this time of night? Whenever that happens, I always expect the worst. Someone has been in a car wreck, or is on the way to the hospital, or someone is stranded on the other side of town with a car that won’t run. So what was it this time? Car trouble? Heart attack? Robbery? Nope.
The cat unplugged the refrigerator. :o\
My mother-in-law lived alone in a large, old house about twelve miles away, and somehow, one of her cats had gotten behind the fridge, and now it was unplugged. Why does this stuff happen at 11:30 at night? I’m sure I’m not the only one. By choosing caregiving there been many a caregiver going about their business, caring for a loved one and looking for answers. Each day can present its own challenges and unique situations, where we must change our plans, reschedule our day, or just heave a sigh and get on with it.
No one becomes a caregiver out of convenience. Mostly it comes from necessity. And there’s not a thing in the world wrong with that. Caregivers are good people, ready to roll up their sleeves and do what needs to be done. But you know what? I believe there’s more to it than that … more to that decision than simply having that “get it done” attitude. Deep inside, in the heart of a caregiver, lives the seed of love.
- Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (NIV)(1 Corinthians 13:4–8)
When choosing caregiving, just know that this task will require a lot of time and sacrifice. It is a difficult choice and it should not be made lightly. I’ve come to believe that the convenient choice, (that which is most convenient for us) is all too often made out of fear. Fear that you’ll lose something of your life. Fear that it’s all just too hard, too long, and too expensive. We have our own life, our own plan. And we’re afraid to lose those plans. We do not want to give up our own plans.
But there are some, when faced with this choice, find not choosing to help ~ unacceptable.
I’m here today as a witness. I’ve been a caregiver… twice. I not going to tell you it was easy. And yes, we had to change our plans. But, looking back, I believe it was the right choice. I have no regrets. And I would like to encourage you, as you consider your choices, that it’s not all gloom and doom. There are good days and happy times. And yes, there are days when you have to come over late at night just to plug-in the refrigerator. But it’s not hard to care for people you love. And I think it’s up to you to make it what you want. Whatever you decide, (and there is no right or wrong answer), I would like suggest that when choosing caregiving, you not let “fear” have a voice in your decision. Talk it over with you family, pray about it, sleep on it, and listen to your heart.
You’ll know what’s best for your situation.